How to Tap Into Your Feminine Energy and Naturally Boost Fertility Flow
Discover how connecting with your feminine energy can help you find balance, release stress, and boost your natural fertility. Learn to flow with your body and nurture your fertility journey...
Have you felt the pain of the "silent scream" of infertility? You know, that intense heartbreak no one else can hear? You're not alone, I've felt it too....
For years, I thought the harder I worked at my fertility, the closer I’d get to my dream of becoming a Mum. After all, that's how I'd achieved everything else in my life before, so why wouldn't it work this time? I’d never even heard of the idea of feminine energy in fertility, let alone explored it.
Everything from passing exams, job interviews or exercise, to overcoming the trauma of narcissistic relationships, it was down to me, pushing hard, fighting and finding my way through.
So when I first realised my fertility journey wasn't going to be the fairytale I had always assumed it would be, I instinctively resorted to survival and fight mode, it had never failed me before...
I researched non-stop on anything that might help. I watched films, documentaries, and devoured any story that had anything remotely to do with people falling pregnant after having difficulty. I tracked, planned, and pushed, but it left me exhausted on every level.
I became obsessed....
Before I even realised it, I ate, slept and breathed fertility, I was consumed by it. It was my first thought when I woke up and the last thing on my mind before I went to sleep. I swear there were even times I dreamt about it. It was all I could focus on and the only topic of conversation I had with my husband. He bore it well, but I'd be lying if I said it didn't affect things between us. But I'll leave that part of my story for another time...
As a Midwife at a busy hospital, it was impossible to distract myself at work, my entire role was supporting and caring for new mums and their newborn babies. Every. Single. Day.
My work became a blessing....and a curse.
I'd always felt blessed to be part of something so magical, totally in awe of the incredible power of women's bodies and the miracle of new life, but I also felt utterly cursed to be reminded constantly of the one thing I'd begun to feel I could never have.......a family of my own.
It dawned on me that sex education at school is all about how NOT to get pregnant..it makes you believe getting pregnant is inevitable...even easy. But that's not always the reality, is it?
Midwifery training is all about the science of fertility and pregnancy, I had never known anyone who had experienced infertility, I was completely naive about what it really meant to be infertile, how much of your life it impacted.
Despite all my training, all my research, and all my fighting, I had the brief excitement of a positive test after 11 months of trying, only to miscarry a couple of weeks later. Then nothing. Nada. Zilch. For 6 years.
It wasn’t until I stopped fighting, slowed down, and began to look deep inside myself, for my own health and sanity, that things started to shift. I realised my fertility wasn’t something to control, it was something to flow with, something to be cherished and nurtured.
That’s when I began to explore what it truly meant to live in my feminine energy, and everything started to change....
When I finally stopped pushing and started listening, I realised my body had been whispering to me all along.
Feminine energy is about softness, intuition, and trust. It’s the opposite of the masculine, fighting energy we’ve been taught to live in.
Not all goals have to be fought for......some need to be invited in.
Had I realised this at the start of my fertility journey, I've no doubt that I would never have endured the pain of so many years of longing, I'm certain I would have become a Mum so much sooner.
Here are a few gentle ways to begin reconnecting with your feminine energy today, that helped me too...
Slow down and breathe. Create moments of stillness each day. Even five minutes of deep breathing can help you shift from stress to flow. You can do this anywhere; in your car when you arrive home, in the bathroom, in the queue at Starbucks, and as often as you like.
Connect with your body. Gentle movement like yoga, walking, or dancing helps you feel grounded and safe in your body again, whatever movement suits you. Or if you prefer, listen to your favourite music or something to help you meditate.
Nurture yourself. Do something that feels nourishing, whether it’s a warm bath, journalling, or spending time in nature, no rules except make time for this simple yet powerful step.
Trust your intuition. Instead of searching for every answer outside of yourself, close your eyes, focus within and start asking yourself, “What does my body need right now?” Often your first thought or instinctive answer is the right one. But if not, keep asking yourself this with compassion and calmness until it 'feels right' in your body - trust it, it knows more than you realise.
Fertility doesn’t respond to force. It responds to softness, surrender, and balance....
When you begin to soften, slow down, and truly listen to your body, something beautiful happens. You start to feel safe again. You begin to trust that your body knows what to do. And in that space of trust and surrender, fertility can flow naturally once more.
Instead of being in fear, fight and survival mode, your body feels balance, calm and peace. It feels safe enough to allow the possibility of new life into its world and ultimately into yours.
Remember, this journey isn’t about doing more, it’s about being more - more connected, more compassionate, more in tune with your feminine energy, more in tune with who you are and being more in tune with your own body.
Whenever you reconnect with your feminine energy for fertility, you’re creating space for your body to feel safe, balanced, and open to new life. One tiny step at a time. Your magic works.
And if you’d love some gentle support along the way, come join me inside the Fertility Nurture Hub. It’s a safe, heart-led space where you can reconnect with your body, your energy, and your hope. You can also download my free guide, Finding Your Fertility Magic, to help you begin that journey today.
